How to Prevent Emotional Abuse

Have you ever feel that your relationship is draining you yet you cannot leave? Have you been thinking that this person is not treating you right and continue to do so, knowing very well that you are constantly hurt by their actions? Well, then let's see what we can do to prevent emotional abuse.

Steps

1. Identify the abuser - who has the power to abuse - the abused often gives the abuser a position which is superior and the abused is often significanty affected by things the abuser said, did and acted (body language included), it can be littlest things that can hurt
   
2. Listen to your gut, often one sense that there is some abuse going on but most of the time, the abused often ignores that gut instinct to move away or leave that person, believing that things will get better
   
3. Act according to your instinct, when an abuser is identified, it is best to leave as soon as possible, as the abuse mostly will not stop and the abused will either become more abused or become the abuser - it is a vicious circle
   
4. Leave the abusive environment, if it is a marriage, then seek divorce, if it is friendship - leave the person who is abusing you
   
5. Ask for help, whether it is from your loved ones, ones you trust, you need lots of support from the right people to propel you forward
   
6. Know that I am better than this, do not believe in things that they say/do to put you down, your confidence can threaten them and make them abuse you, pity them for their weakness so that they want to put you down
   
7. rebuild your life, after emotional abuse one can lose their identity and question themselves
   
8. do not return, even the abuser apologised, tell you that he or she has reformed, changed or that the person will not cope without you, because these behaviors are actually a form of abuse and by returning, you know very well, what will happen
   
9. do not hope that the abuser is actually going to change or am really sorry, remember this is about you, only you can take care of yourself and the abuser is not allowing you to help yourself, the abuser only wants your help and is never going to give back
   
10. in the future, do not be the abuser or be the abused again, try to trust people and learn from your mistakes
    

Tips

• in public, an abuser is often cloaked in sweet words, that most people may not detect their wrongdoing, do not fear that people will question you, only have comfort that, some of your closest friends know what is going on and that is enough
  
• do not give anyone, all the power, always love someone enough and not give your all, you need your love for yourself also
  
• leaving is hard to do, especially if you are depending on the abuser, if you are in that situation e.g. financial ruins if you leave your husband, then it will be very difficult and I advise that you try to let go and not allow yourself to feel down by things said to you
  
• if you cannot leave the abuser because of family reason e.g. your kids like their father very much, even their father makes a rotten husband, remember that you are doing good in keeping your family together and you are making that sacrifice and you are a good person, do not despair
  

Warnings

• Emotional abuse can turn into physical abuse, once there is physical abuse, it is much more complicated - need to seek police help and make a diary
  

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