How to Notice When You're Being Manipulated

Trying to understand someone's motive for doing something is a helpful skill to have. A person's motive for his or her actions can vary from wanting to be kind or friendly to deceitful and selfish, and anywhere in between. By learning how to spot situations where you might be in danger of being manipulated by someone whose motives may not be in your favor, you can learn how to protect yourself.

Steps

1. Try not to guess at what another person's motive could be, especially in matters that involve trying to build a sudden but serious friendship or relationship.
   
2. Watch out for new friends or buddies at work, such as right after a big job promotion. If that promotion involves being a boss or supervisor, beware of people trying to butter up to you simply because you're the new boss. This doesn't mean that you should assume anyone being friendly is trying to take advantage of you, but don't get into a situation where your personal involvement with them interferes with doing your job well.
   
3. Beware of the manipulative sales pitch. A sales person isn't really concerned for your welfare. If you feel like you're being pressured into buying something - especially an expensive something. If they're not willing to give you the chance to look around, then chances are they're not really offering you the best deal in town.
   
   • Do your homework before buying. Check competitors and consumer reviews to make sure that what you're being sold is worth what you're paying for it.
     
   • Get estimates! Look for the offers that may not be the rock-bottom cheapest, but that include the most comprehensive amount of work and follow-up for the best price. This can apply to all sorts of situations; Auto mechanics, Plumbers/builders/repair contractors of any sort, Doctors and Dentists.
     
   • Don't be afraid to get a second opinion for any costly treatment or procedure. It is your right to make sure you are getting the best possible care at the best price. Ask as many questions as you want, until you're sure you understand the full situation. If the person's motive really is because they're concerned about your well-being or giving the best deal, they'll happily give you all the information and time you need to make your decision.
     
   • Buyer beware! A Realtor or an individual could have a very strong motive for selling a house at a "rock bottom price", such as some sort of structural flaw that makes it unsafe. Ask about the history of the property, and why it is being offered at such a low price. Get a building surveyor in to do a thorough top-to-bottom check on the whole property, so you don't miss anything that may affect your decision to buy. Study the market on similar properties so you have a good idea of reasonable and average costs for what you're considering.
     
   • Read the fine print on any and all paperwork. Banks are going crazy these days to give out loans and credit cards, but often their motives are centered around extremely high interest rates, or unreasonable fees and repayment schedules.
     
4. Don't take everything at face value, even with friends or loved ones.
   
5. Spend time learning to understand the people close to you, so that when they say or do something which is hurtful or deceitful, you can figure out why.
   
   • You have a much better chance at resolving the situation in a peaceful manner if you can calmly discuss the motive(s) behind their behavior with them. This works for both positive and negative situations.
     
   • "Speak softly and carry a big stick, and you will go far." While it's unlikely that Theodore Roosevelt really wanted people to carry around big sticks, his advice is good. He meant that people should make sure that they were equipped to defend themselves properly, but not to be aggressive towards others.
     
6. Don't fall prey to slick sales talk or manipulative acquaintances - learn to guard against situations that could land you in trouble.
   

Tips

• Relationships are "give and take". Don't end up on the losing end, where you're always the giver, and someone else always takes. It should be clear in that case that their motives aren't in your favor.
  
• Always ask yourself what makes the most logical sense in a situation - it can help you to discover what's really behind someone's actions or words.
  

Warnings

• If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
  
• If someone is suddenly acting uncharacteristically bad or good, there may be something going on in the background that you don't know about.
  
• Try to avoid knee-jerk reactions to things - this is often a sign that you haven't really thought the situation through.
  
• People with reputations for being bullies or dishonest will always be looking for new victims. Don't be an easy target for them.
  

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How to Cope With an Uncaring Mother

An "uncaring" mother can mean many different things.

Steps

1. Realize that your mother is uncaring for a reason. It is possible she has a past that she has not been able to reconcile and is finding it difficult to grow up and accept that she has responsibilities toward others now.
   
2. Accept that you cannot change her. Only she can change herself. You can leave literature about for her to read but you cannot lead her to read it.
   
3. Accept the situation for what it is. Whatever she is uncaring about, there is always someone who will care. Find that person. Be sure, however, that your relationship does not destabilize the one you have with her because it may threaten her.
   
4. Tell her how you feel. If her uncaring attitude is not as a result of a mental illness, drugs, or some other altered state of mind, she just might try to work with you. Having it pointed out to her may be enough to snap her back to her senses.
   
5. Remember that you cannot control the situation. Rather, express your concern and unhappiness.
   
6. Don't beat yourself up for her not caring. Life goes on regardless of whether or not a mother has cared for us adequately. Successful people look inside themselves and learn to care for themselves before all else, and that is where you can and should source your strength from.
   
7. Find somebody else who does care. A father, a grandparent, a sibling, a friend's parent.
   
8. Sometimes, people who become parents don't actually like children, yet when you are grown up, the relationship will change for the positive.
   

Warnings

• Look at what you say is "uncaring" - is it really uncaring or are you just upset about something at this point in time?
  
• Face the question: Is my mother truly a self-centered person? If you have trouble answering this, ask a friend of the family, someone who wasn't brought up in the home. If the answer is yes, you need to accept that this is a broken person. Stop trying to make her happy. You are wasting your time and worse, you are wasting your life. You need to look for friends and lovers who are healthy, giving, reliable, and not manipulators. Your mental health and your future relationships depend on breaking free.
  

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How to Be Friends with Someone Emotionally Unable to Be an Equally Supportive Friend

Have you ever met a person who you started being friends with a while ago, and even though he hasn't been the best of friends, you continue to hang out with him? Well hopefully this will help you to be a good friend to people who are unable to be there for you like you have been/would be for them. Notice the terms "can't" and "unable", as opposed to "won't" and "unwilling". That's because there are people with emotional blocks that keep them from being supportive.

Steps

1. Identify why a person can't be a supportive friend. Your friend may have psychological problems, such as depression, insecurity, paranoia, anger problems, or being too possessive. Or your friend may be psychologically healthy, but has decided over time that they would prefer a more casual friendship with you than you would like with them. These are two very different situations.
   
2. Identify what you're not getting from your friend that you want.
   
3. Talk with your friend about your hopes and wishes about the friendship and their hopes and wishes and accept where they overlap and where they don't.
   
4. Accept where your friend is with the friendship and adjust your investment in the friendship to meet that. Do not over-give to someone to try to get something back. This is manipulative and can cause you to become resentful.
   
5. If a friend is obviously very distressed, and not treating you well, it is appropriate to set limits on what you'll tolerate and the time you'll spend with them. If you think they are having severe psychological problems, it would be good idea to check with a mental health professional or even your own doctor about how best to approach your friend about getting treatment.
   
6. Treat your friend with respect. Do not judge. It's okay for them to be how they are and/or going through a difficult time. It's not okay for them to be abusive, but its okay for them to not meet your needs. You are responsible for meeting your own needs.
   
7. Try accepting your friend with a positive attitude. Thank your friend for the friendship that they do show toward you.
   
8. Make sure you have plenty of other support from other people in your life so that you are not so focused on what you are not getting from one friend. Make sure you are supporting yourself. If you feel you have an extra need for support, join a support group, see a therapist, do good things for yourself. etc.
   
9. If your friend is going through a difficult time, do not play counselor. That can be condescending. Listening and sharing caring statements can be helpful.
   

Tips

• If your friend is making a lot of statements that show discouragement or despair, its possible that they are depressed. Again, check with your doctor or a mental health professional or a trusted advisor about how you might approach your friend about getting help or treatment.
  
• If your friend is hot and cold, sometimes warm and sometimes mean and rejecting, you have a right to set limits on what you'll accept and let your friend know what your limits are. If they're not willing to abide by your limits, you need to make decisions to protect yourself from poor treatment. For instance, spend time with them when they are pleasant, and when they're not, let them know that their behavior isn't working for you right then and leave. You can try again later.
  
• Above all, be grown up and be honest. Read books about relationships and communication and healthy boundaries and mental health. If you want to stay friends with a person who is under a lot of distress, going through psychological problems, or not wanting to be as close as you are, it is a great opportunity for you to learn and practice being compassionate, honest, assertive and non-judgmental and setting healthy boundaries. If the friendship just isn't going to work for you, it is also a good opportunity to learn how to end a friendship in an honest and respectful way.
  

Warnings

• If you find your friend talking about committing suicide, tell your friend's family, or another trusted adult or mental health or medical professional immediately!
  
• If your friend is acting out in an emotionally or physically or verbally abusive way, get out of there! Do not try to calm them down. You may get hurt. Again, tell someone and if necessary for the protection of your friend and others, call a community police officer or crisis center.
  

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How to Improve Your Love Life by Improving Your Health

A lot of people say they'd like to have a super love life, but it all boils down to the question, "Are you willing to work for it?"

Steps

1. Consider your health. In a world where many people choose a junk food over an apple, you'll have to be the one who has the wisdom and willpower to choose the apple. In a world increasingly addicted to TV, you and your mate will have to come up with the willpower to go out on a nature walk or bicycle ride. Because you can't have a super love life unless you treat your body with love and respect. This is not a six-week diet, as you should consider a life-long program of better nutrition. This is not a three-month exercise program here to take off two inches from the waist; consider regular exercise every day of your life.
   
2. Do some cardiovascular exercises. The Harvard School of Public Health reports that men who were physically inactive were 40 percent more likely to experience erectile dysfunction than men who exercised a half hour a day. A foundation of correct nutrition and regular exercise is necessary before we can begin to think about a super love life.
   
3. Eat to live and love. Most of us do not realize how foods affect our moods, feelings, energy level, and behavior. When a person is "down in the dumps", one doesn't automatically say, "Gosh, I must not have been eating right." On the other hand, when we're feeling on top of the world we don't stop to think, "I'd like to feel this good more often." Many people do not relate how they feel to what they've been eating, but foods, vitamins, and minerals can make all the difference in the world between a so-so love life and the kind of love life that makes you smile every time you think about it. Many people who think they have sex problems are actually victims of poor nutrition. They don't have sex problems. They have food problems. And food problems can be solved.
   
4. De-stress and relax. The physical effects of long-term stress include colds, ulcers, asthma, heart attack, stroke, and chronic fatigue--all ailments that can erode your health and your love life. Couples can de-stress together at the end of the day in more romantic ways, such as enjoying a lathery bubble bath for two, complete with scented candles, and a mug of warm milk and honey. Or just watch a movie together.
   

Tips

• The goals are to spend quality time together and put you on the path to total relaxation.
  
• It all takes effort to improve your love life. There is no substitute for balanced foods, and no shortcut to good health. But if you work at it, you can achieve a super love life.
  
• Many couples find that watching an adult film with their loved one can really enhance their love life. Some couples prefer love making guides or books to learn the proper techniques.
  

Warnings

• Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee.
  
• Avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Sugar interferes with the sex life and reduces its pleasure. But sometime the proper amount of sugar or say sweet things could bring some good mood.
  
• Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas and juices for commercial soft drinks.
  

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How to Be Confident

We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from being confident. Here's how to believe in yourself.

Steps

1. Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good—morally or otherwise. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn't have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
   
2. Find your passion. Whether it's baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you'll be enjoying your progress.
   
3. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous. Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and/or spiritual. Work towards acquiring those.
   
4. Focus on others. Try not to focus negatively on what others think of you. Instead, focus more on what they think of themselves, and try to help them become happier and more confident.
   
5. Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).
   
6. Know that you have important things to say and do. When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people. Let go of your fear of coming off as annoying or overbearing. People will judge you all the time, and usually they'll misjudge you anyway, so why bother trying to cater to their opinions at all?
   
7. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet and get enough exercise. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don't obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
   
8. Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone--most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
   
9. Celebrate your individuality. If you know you've got something special or different, then embrace it—don't hide it! That's diversity! You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier, stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn't be who you are. "What am I?" you ask; the answer's easy: You're a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
   
10. Improve your posture. Having good posture can actually make you feel more confident.[1] Don't slouch or slump your shoulders. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you'll appear stiff and uptight). Good posture also helps with deep breathing, which helps with feeling calm and relaxed.
    
11. Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven't done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
    

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Tips

• Don't compare yourself with other people. It is a wasteful pursuit, and you could be doing something better with your time and energy. Know what you, personally, want and expect from yourself, and focus on attaining those things. The things that you want and expect from yourself don't have anything to do with how you measure up to others.
  
• Consider attending leadership classes. Learn to take control of things. If you are in school, then consider running for a social position, such as a president of a club. The ability to lead others and respond to others' behavior under your leadership will help to bring you self confidence.
  
• Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations.
  
• Speak positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying something negative about yourself, instantly replace it with a positive comment.
  
• Slow down all of your movements including your walking speed. Quick movements and actions are the product of someone who is nervous and not in control.
  
• Write down a detailed, thought-out list of values which are important to you. Then you can observe everything that happens in your life through these values and evaluate how to react to events. By judging yourself according to your own values, rather than everyone else's values, you're giving yourself expectations that you can actually achieve.
  
• Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
  
• Ask for what you want. If everybody's going to the movies, and most people in the group want to see a particular movie, but you'd rather watch something else, speak up! There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, and it doesn't have to mean you're making a demand. Simply reminding people that you're an individual with your own preferences is a big step forward. Even asking someone to help you do something will help.
  
• Do something for yourself. Do one thing you have been wanting to do, but are afraid someone else will not like. Dye your hair, get that new look, have a treat that you enjoy, go on holiday....whatever you do, do it for yourself, and practice not worrying what anyone else thinks about it.
  
• Be yourself don't be afraid to ask questions!!!
  
• When you look in the mirror don't look for flaws, instead smile and tell yourself you look pretty today.
  

Warnings

• Stop being a perfectionist. Nothing and no one is perfect. High standards have their place--when performing surgery, for example, or designing a building--but when applied to other areas of your life (your appearance, your home's appearance, your hobbies, your handwriting, whatever) you're practically inviting anxiety and insecurity into your life. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have any standards at all; it's when you start stressing out about the details to the extent that you're always criticizing yourself that it goes too far.
  
• Remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Being confident means recognizing your inherent value. Being arrogant means thinking you're more valuable than other people.
  
• Stay away from negative people, ones who always complain about everything in their lives or those who point out the smallest flaws in you with intention to hurt you.
  
• Don't expect these steps to work overnight. Confidence must gradually be developed by a pattern of positive thinking and action; it can't be faked.
  
• While helping others can be a source of confidence, for some people it can be a symptom of lack of confidence, especially when it comes to basing your self-worth on how much you do for other people. It's noble to want to help others, but it's something you should do because you want to, not because you feel you have to. The greatest acts of kindness are those done by choice, not out of fear or guilt.
  
• Dont get over confident.
  

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Sources and Citations

1. ↑ http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/10/091005111627.htm

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How to Live Life to the Fullest when You Have a Mental Disorder

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.

Steps

1. Recognize that people around you will say things that will be hurtful to you. And they may even say that they're your friend, but they talk badly about you behind your back.
   
2. Brush them off and don't let what they say get to you. They think that they have you figured out and that you are just another mental nutcase in the world that should be locked up. But the truth is that they only say those things cause they are insecure about their own self. They may have had a bad past and also been diagnosed with a mental disorder. And they don't want to admit it.
   
3. Use positive affirmations to speak and think positively.
   
4. Don't hold back on your dreams. Be persistent in following a good plan to improve your skills and abilities.
   
5. Never let the opinion of another person prevent you from reaching for the stars.
   
6. Develop your talents and apply them: If you have a goal of someday being a famous piano player, don't stop practicing because someone tells you that you are no very good at playing piano. Then you may, for example, become one of the best piano players and composers, you can go back to the person and tell them that they were wrong about you.
   

Tips

• Never give up
  

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How to Diagnose and Treat Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder(BPD) interferes with someone's ability to regulate emotion. Because of this emotional instability, the individual experiences extreme and sudden mood swings, impulsive behavior, poor self-image, and intense interpersonal relationships. People with BPD have sudden outbursts of anger that are unpredictable and can sometimes lead to self-injury. They are extremely sensitive to rejection and have a fear of being abandoned or left alone. If you are concerned that you, a loved one, or someone you know may have this disorder, then keep reading to know what the criteria in order to be diagnosed with BPD is.

Steps

1. Determine if the individual has five or more of the following symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder:
   
   • frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
     
   • pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships
     
   • identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image
     
   • impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)
     
   • recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
     
   • affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (extreme changes in mood typically lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
     
   • chronic feelings of emptiness
     
   • inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger
     
   • transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms (This means feeling "out of it," or not being able to remember what you said or did. This mostly happens in times of severe stress.) [1]
     
2. Know that, if five or more symptoms have been determined, there is treatment.There is hope. Although BPD is difficult to treat, long-term treatment can result in significant improvement and can immensely improve the quality of your life.
   
3. See one or more of these people. Professional counseling can be provided by a:
   
   • Psychiatrist.
     
   • Psychologist.
     
   • Licensed mental health counselor who has special training in treating borderline personality disorder.
     
   • Social worker who has special training in treating borderline personality disorder.[2]
     
4. Know the different types of counseling commonly used to treat the disorder.
   
   • COGNITIVE-BEHAVIORAL THERAPY (CBT), which focuses on changing certain thoughts and behavior patterns to control the symptoms of a condition.
     
   • DIALECTICAL BEHAVIOR THERAPY, which helps reduce destructive behaviors by teaching healthy ways to adapt to and cope with challenges and feelings of frustration or lack of power.
     
   • PSYCHODYNAMIC THERAPY, which focuses on uncovering or understanding your past to gain insight into your actions and current behavior. This technique assumes that problems with behavior are caused by internal conflicts that you are not consciously aware of.
     
   • FAMILY THERAPY, which can help educate your family about your condition and provide support to you and to those who care about you and are affected by your condition. For example, it is sometimes difficult for a parent with borderline personality disorder to be nurturing, even to his or her own child.
     
   • SUPPORT GROUPS, where you and people you care about are able to meet others who share similar challenges.[3]
     
5. Consider medicine therapy along with professional counseling. It can be prescribed by your:
   
   • Psychiatrist (who can also diagnose mental health conditions).
     
   • Internist.
     
   • Family medicine physician.
     
   • General practitioner.
     
   • Physician assistant.
     
   • Nurse practitioner.[4]
     

Tips

• Here are some extra diagnostic tips...
  
• People with BPD are often bright, witty, funny, life of the party.
  
• When a person leaves (even temporarily), they may have a problem recreating or remembering feelings of love that were present between themselves and the other.
  
• Their lives may be a chaotic landscape of job losses, interrupted educational pursuits, broken engagements, hospitalizations.
  
• Many have a background of childhood physical, sexual, or emotional abuse or physical/emotional neglect.
  
• Shifts in mood lasting only a few hours.
  
• Splitting: the self and others are viewed as "all good" or "all bad."
  
• Alternating distancing and clinging behaviors ("I hate you, don't leave me").
  
• Great difficulty trusting people and themselves.
  
• Sensitivity to criticism or rejection.
  
• Heavy need for affection and reassurance.
  
• Some people with Borderline Personality Disorder may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight, and empathy.
  

Warnings

• There are a few important reasons why you should seek professional help as soon as possible, if you believe that you or a loved one may have Borderline Personality Disorder. Don't just "wait to see"! By then it may be too late.
  
• It's characteristic of people with BPD to act impulsively. The impulse to anger can escalate to violent behavior. If psychosis presents as part of the rage, there can be no telling what the person will do.
  
• The anger experienced by a person with BPD often becomes self directed. This anger can lead to self injury. They may turn their rage inward, internalizing the feeling and acting on it against their own bodies. Or, they may show anti-social behaviors like fighting and reckless driving when their anger escalates into rage.
  
• Ultimately, some borderline patients will internalize their rage to such an extent that they may attempt suicide.
  
• Don't put it off; get help!

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Sources and Citations

• 1.http://www.behavenet.com/capsules/disorders/borderlinepd.htm
  
• 2.http://www.cigna.com/healthinfo/ty6802.html
  

1. ↑ http://www.behavenet.com/capsules/disorders/borderlinepd.htm
2. ↑ http://www.cigna.com/healthinfo/ty6802.html
3. ↑ http://www.cigna.com/healthinfo/ty6802.html
4. ↑ http://www.cigna.com/healthinfo/ty6802.html

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